Sunday, October 3, 2010

Ableism...and a Great Story

 *Note: I first wrote this several weeks ago. Unfortunately, I've been having computer problems and have just been able to insert the picture, which is integral to this post.


Tonight in my Religion and the Social Process class we discussed Ableism. What, you may ask, is ableism? This is not really a term we are familiar with. Let me try to sum it up for you by describing, in a nutshell, that ableism is the oppression, suppression, and dehumanization directed at those who are differently abled. It is what keeps classrooms segregated, what excludes those who are differently abled from the work force and churches. It is every time a "temporarily abled" person stares at, or through someone who is "different."

A week ago, in a different class, my liturgy professor led us on pilgrimage. Professor Elkins can find the holy in anything, from a trip to Wal-Mart to a cockroach, so you never know what new insights you might find in her presence. When she said we were going on pilgrimage I excitedly rose from my seat and followed the class expectantly, waiting to see where she would take us and what secrets would be divulged to us. We didn't travel far; out the classroom door, down the hallway, making a right down another hallway, and finally ending outside the elevator. She pointed to this picture, and then told us a story.





Back in 1990, she began, we had a student here who was in the Master of Theological Studies program. His name was David, and he wanted to teach. David had severe cerebral palsy; before coming to Drew he had surgery done on his vocal folds in hopes it would help him to speak. The surgery left him unable to use any part of his body except his right hand. This is how David communicated with us; he would type what he wanted to say on a keyboard and we would respond, he would type and we would respond...
David was Episcopalian, and he was a good Episcopalian. He came to every communion service that was held, and often others. Back then, we didn't have this elevator. We didn't have this beautiful new building. How many flights of stairs, she asked, do you have to climb to get up to this chapel? We counted in our heads. You come in the front door and go up about eight stairs. Then you go up about fifteen, then another fifteen... I have counted the stairs, but the numbers are escaping me. Three flights of stairs, Professor Elkins prompts us. David was a very tall man. It took three people to carry him up the stairs every time he wanted to attend a chapel service. We gave David the evangelism award, because every time he was in chapel, there were at least three other people there! It didn't matter if they had intended on coming in the first place- after carrying him up all those stairs, they stayed! We laughed, softly. I try to imagine how much trust one would need to be carried up the hard, stone stairs to Craig Chapel. David asked me if he could preach a senior sermon during his last year, and I of course said yes. I said yes not knowing what this would look like. His sermon was the best I had ever heard. It is the sermon that I now use to judge all other sermons. I look at Professor Elkins. Her eyes are red, and it looks like there are tears just below the surface. David asked me to make him a promise. When the school puts in an elevator, that he would be the first to ride it. And I promised.
Unfortunately, Drew was not quick enough to fulfill that promise. David died before the elevator was installed. But I know that every time one of you rides this elevator, David is riding with you.
She turns and points to the painting on the wall. After he graduated David gave us this painting; he had done it himself. And he told me that, this is everything anyone in seminary needed to know. It was contained in this one picture.
Do you see the cross? The cross is central.
This up here? What does this look like? It's a fish- the early symbol of the Christian faith.
Below that is a vine with grapes on it. Jesus is the vine.
Beside the vine are the Old and New Covenants.
And the top right hand corner...I'm ashamed to say, I didn't catch what Professor Elkins said. My heart felt so heavy, thinking of all this young man had been through, of all he had given to the Drew community, and the un-kept promise of the first ride in the elevator.
When the elevator was installed, it was decided that David's painting be hung next to it in his memory. Now that you have heard the story, you will notice the painting, and when you ride, you will remember David.




This story touched me deeply. I did my best to record it in writing, but it does not do Professor Elkins' storytelling justice. I want to thank Professor Elkins for giving me permission to share this story in memory of David deLuw.

Friday, September 10, 2010

A Sampling of This Week

Following the advice of professional...I guess I can say professional, blogger Ree Drummond, aka The Pioneer Woman, I am attempting to blog more regularly. I may not always have much to say, but at least it lets whoever reads this know I'm alive. So here we go, a really brief recap of this past week:

It is Friday of the second, yes, ONLY the second, week of school here at Drew Theological School. My. brain. is. fried. We didn't even have classes on Monday because of Labor Day! I got home last night and the front of my head felt SOOOO heavy...I thought my head would plop down into my soup bowl. But that didn't happen, and I really enjoyed the blue cheese celery soup that Evan made for supper. It was delicious, along with homemade bread I had made last week.

We had some good food this. Portabello burgers on Monday, risotto on Wednesday...I don't remember what Tuesday was, even though I cooked it. Oh! Yes I do! I made the eggplant ricotta pizza we love so much. With an eggplant from our own garden. It was delicious- how could I have forgotten? Oh well, just shows you where my brain is today.

I had to cancel the kick-off event for the youth that was supposed to be tonight into tomorrow. That was a huge source of stress, emotional fatigue, and disappointment. But, I'm feeling better now.

I have a bunch of homework to do this weekend, and two programs to plan and lead on Sunday, but it will all get done somehow. I'm really excited about one of my homework assignments this weekend. More about that later.

Alrighty, time to work more on campus visits, then have lunch with some lovely people. : )

Peace!

Sunday, August 29, 2010

Today's Sermon: Blessed are...Who?

For the past several weeks Robb (Pastor Shoaf) has been speaking on the Beatitudes, also called the Sermon on the Mount, that we find in the gospel of Matthew. Containing some of Jesus’ best known teachings, the short passage contained in Matthew speaks of the blessings that await for Christ’s disciples. Since it’s been several weeks since we last heard them, let’s refresh our memories. In Matthew, chapter 5 verses 1 through 12, Jesus offers this message:

“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be fulfilled.
Blessed are the merciful, for they will receive mercy.Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.

This passage provides promises for those who live in a right way here on earth, and also provides instruction on how one should conduct themselves. We are to be meek, pure of heart, and show mercy to others. Also, we should expect to be misunderstood and even mistreated as a result of our lifestyles and faith. Almost every one of these blessings are of a spiritual nature, although some of them are realized through physical acts, such as showing mercy through acts of charity, or acting to bring about peace. This passage is often seen as instructions on how one should act and live their life as a follower of Christ.

A much shorter version of what we call the Beatitudes also occurs in Luke’s gospel, in chapter 6 verses 20 through 23, but these are dramatically different from those in Matthew. See if you can pick up on the difference.

“Then he, Jesus, looked up at his disciples and said:
Blessed are you who are poor, for yours if the kingdom of God.
Blessed are you who are hungry now, for you will be filled.
Blessed are you who weep now, for you will laugh.
Blessed are you when people hate you, and when they exclude you, revile you, and defame you on account of the Son of Man. Rejoice in that day and leap for joy, for surely your reward is great in heaven; for that is what their ancestors did to the prophets.” (NRSV)

Did you hear the difference? Does that difference make you a little uncomfortable? It should. Jesus says, blessed are the poor. And I wonder how many of us in this room, in this county, can honestly admit that we are poor. Not poor in spirit…poor. Morris county is the seventh richest county in the United States (Forbes.com). The seventh. According to the U.S. Census, the median income from 2008, just two years ago, was $99,268. That is almost six figures. Compare that to the fact that around the world, about 1.4billion people live on less than one dollar and 25 cents a day*. That’s only $456.25 a year. Blessed are the poor; blessed are those who are barely making minimum wage and are working two or three jobs to keep a roof over their head. Blessings upon them, the kindom of God belongs to them.

Blessed are those who hunger. Every 10 seconds a child somewhere in the world dies because of hunger*.That’s about 8,000 children a day. Over one billion people go hungry each day*. Not hungry as in, they didn’t have a snack after school, hungry as in, there was no food today. Or maybe yesterday too. And probably tomorrow. Our society is so wrapped up in food; it is everywhere around us. On television, in ads, magazines, books, blogs, the list goes on. It is no secret that obesity, especially childhood obesity, is climbing at alarming rates, and that average Americans throw away 25% of their food. We have more food than we know what to do with, while children in Africa might get one meal a day, a meal that probably consists of gruel. They are hungry. We are full to overflowing. Who does Jesus bless?

Blessed are you who weep now; are we weeping, friends? Are we weeping for our brothers and sisters who have no food, no clothes, no shelter? Did we weep when oil was leaking into the Gulf Coast, threatening not only our own water and ecosystem, but in actuality the world’s? Are we weeping as war takes the lives of not only our own soldiers, but in every country where violence occurs? Are we weeping as people’s civil rights and liberties are denied and governments do nothing about it? Blessed are you who weep, for God will wipe away your tears and your tears shall turn to laughter and your mourning into dancing.

Where do we fit into Luke’s Beatitudes? We can relate with Matthew’s, they are more…inclusive. Anyone can be poor in spirit, anyone can hunger and thirst for righteousness. We are all searching for something in our lives; love, beauty, tolerance, forgiveness. There is hope for us in Matthew’s Beatitudes. In Luke’s, however, as privileged middle and upper class Americans, there seems to be no place for us.

Or is there?

Before you get too disheartened, let me remind you of another passage that is found in Matthew. Twenty chapters after the Beatitudes, after the famous Sermon on the Mount, Jesus speaks another powerful message.

“When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angel with him, then he will sit on the throne of his glory. All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate people one from another as a shepherd separates sheep from the goats, and he will put the sheep at his right hand and the goats at the left. Then the king will say to those at his right hand, Come, you that are blessed by my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world; for I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you gave me clothing, I was sick and you took care of me, I was in prison and you visited me…truly I tell you, just as you did it to one of the least of these who are member of my family, you did it to me.” (Matt. 25:31-36, 40b, NRSV).

Every time you do this to the least, you do this for Christ. Did you hear what Jesus said about those on the right? You that are blessed, he said. You shall inherit the kindom, and I might take the liberty of adding, along with those who are poor, hungry, and weeping. Rejoice and be glad! Yours is the kindom…

As people who have been blessed in this life, here on this earth in this community, we have a duty to be Jesus’ hands and feet to others, and to see the face of Christ in their faces. In today’s gospel lesson from Luke, Jesus tells the Pharisee who had invited him to dinner a parable, and then some advice. Don’t invite those who are your equals, or your betters, he says, because they are capable of repaying you by inviting you to a feast. Rather, you should invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, and the blind; by opening your table to them, you will be blessed, “because they cannot repay you, for you will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous.” Who can we invite to our tables? Who can we feed, and clothe, and offer shelter and support to? Who can we bless, and be blessed ourselves in our giving? We too have been invited to a table we are unworthy of, and that is the table Christ himself prepared for us and we celebrate every time we take part in holy communion. We are blessed to be a blessing to others; we are called to be Christ to the world, and to bring the kindom of God here and now (!) so that those who are hungry now, will be full. Those who are poor, will be no more. That those who are weeping, shall laugh and dance. We are called- let it be so. Amen.

*statistics from World Vision

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Summer's almost over...

and I am actually saddened by this. I am one of those weird people that normally doesn't like summer. I am so routine driven, that when it gets disrupted by winter break, vacations, and especially summertime, I tend to be/become miserable. However, this summer has been SO busy, I am finding that I didn't accomplish nearly as much as I would have liked to. Here is a quick recap of my summer (prepare yourself, this is pretty crazy):

May:
end of classes and finals
trip to Maine
begin working summer hours in the admissions office

June:
Baltimore-Washington Annual Conference
trip to Maryland for Lauren's graduation
back to MD for my certification interview
up to Massachusetts for the New England Annual Conference

July:
cross-cultural trip to Taize, France
Vacation Bible
my first funeral (all by myself!)
filling in as pastor, secretary, organist at the church

August:
quick jaunt down to MD
trip up to Maine (where Evan got certified- yay!)
BACK down to MD....

...and now it is less than a week before classes start, and I am at my desk in the admissions office, thinking of all the planning I need to do for fall programs that start in less than a month. Gah!

On a brighter note, today is mine and Evan's 11th "month-iversary". Yay! After work we are going to the gym (we're on a health kick right now) and then we will get gussied up and go to our favorite restaurant in Madison. We go there every month to celebrate; it's the first place we met, and we've made it ''our'' place. It's called David's Rumba Cafe, but we just call it Dave's. I always get the same thing- a Cadillac Burrito. But, now we are vegetarian, so I'll have to try something new!

Time to go back to work- why are there only 24 hours in the day?

Peace!

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Eggplant!

A few things y'all may not know include:

1. Evan and I are now vegetarians
2. we planted a vegetable garden earlier in the summer
3. we have a lot of eggplant!

Ok, now that that's been covered, on to the main part of this entry which is.....

A DELICIOUS EGGPLANT LASAGNA RECIPE!!!!

We had a lot of veggies lying around the kitchen, refrigerator, garden, etc. that needed to be used up, so we decided to throw together a lasagna. And it was FABULOUS! Evan says he thinks in the future we should blanch the eggplant a little bit before, and I think we should cook the broccoli a little bit before, but we both agree the crunch is nice, so maybe that isn't necessary. Anyway...

First we thinly sliced the eggplant (just 1) and put it on a cookie sheet. You have to sprinkle salt on the slices and let it sit- this will draw the bitter water out of the eggplant and make it nicer.
While that was happening, we made 3 bowls of stuff that we later used to layer.

Bowl 1: sauce
We just used a jar of tomato & basil spaghetti sauce that was in the pantry. To that we added:
- a whole ton of withered spinach (and I mean a ton, like, 2 of the bags of spinach you get at a store!)
- cubed tomato
Mix together and set aside.

Bowl 2: veggies!
I chopped and mixed together:
- onion
- green onions/scallions
- a head of boccoli




Bowl 3: this is what Evan threw together
- ricotta cheese
- mozzarella cheese
- 1 egg
- fresh basil
- thyme
- oregano
- parmesan cheese
- salt
- pepper
This smelled amazing. I wanted to eat some, but didn't because of the raw egg. It was hard not to though.

Then, after rinsing and drying the eggplant, we started to layer! I thought my Pampered Chef rectangular baker would be too big, but we filled it to the top!

Layer:
- sauce
- lasagna noodles
- cheese mixture
- eggplant
- veggie mix
-REPEAT


 On the last layer we just did the noodles, sauce, and then put shredded mozzarella and parmesan cheese.

We baked it on 350 F for about 30 minutes.



Give it a try sometime! I'm actually glad that we will have leftovers for several meals, it was that good!

Saturday, June 26, 2010

Travellings back and forth

Hey y'all! I've been traveling a good bit lately; down to MD a few weeks ago for the Baltimore Washington Annual Conference where I was part of the music team with Mark Miller and DeLyn Celec. I had a great time helping to lead the music throughout conference, but had a very different experience at conference this year. It was probably due to the fact that I was working and unable to re-connect with people at conference. OR maybe it was because of some of the conversations we are still having. Or maybe it was because it was held in the Marriot at the Inner Harbor, where dinner cost $42 a person, and the ordinands were ordained under crystal chandeliers while people were starving just blocks away...Anyway, BW conference was OK. I drove back up to Jersey Friday night so I would be at worship on Sunday, then turned right back around and drove BACK to MD for Lauren's graduation party and graduation!

The graduation party was, of course, a great party (all my mom's parties are great, even though she worries about them). I got to see a lot of people I haven't seen in a while, ate some yummy food, chatted with my pastor for a while, and played some kickball (!). The party "officially" ended at 8, but some of Lauren's friends stayed much longer, first helping us clean up and then staying to watch her open her gifts. It was really nice to see her interact with her friends from church and school. She has blossomed so much, and seems to be in touch with who she is. I know she's going to excel at Centenary in the fall. : )

Graduation was a bit chaotic because Megan experienced her first migraine- except we didn't know it was just a migraine- and ended up in the ER with my father. Lauren was a really great sport about the whole thing, and after being kept over night and having a bunch of tests run, Megan is fine. Thank goodness.

I stayed longer on Wednesday than I had originally planned, and headed back for Jersey once Megan was discharged from the hospital. She had so many pastoral visits- Mark went Tuesday night, then George came on Wednesday afternoon, and Mark came again right as she was being discharged. That is good pastoral care Hiss pastors! Two thumbs up!

I was only in Jersey for a few days- well, a week really- and then I had to go BACK down to MD (that 3 trips now!) for my DCOM meeting. It was pretty intense at times, but they certified me (thank you God!), and I was able to drive back up to Jersey tear-free. When I got home Evan and Lauren G. had dinner ready, and we celebrated a bit before Evan and I had to pack for the New England Annual Conference, which we were going to the next day.

We left early Thursday morning and got up to Gordon College, MA around 1pm. We registered (there was no line!) and got to our room in minutes. Everyone stays in the dorms; each dorm had two twin beds, and two rooms shared a bathroom. The lay representative from Jacksonville UMC (Evan's church in ME) and his wife had the room next to us, and helped pay our way to conference. They are a hoot! and made conference a lot of fun. NEAC was very different from BWAC, in many ways. One of the initial and most obvious differences was the size of the conference. Whereas BW has thousands of clergy alone, there were 1,300 registered TOTAL at NE- that included clergy, laity, and guests! Because it's so small, NE can have their conference at Gordon College, with the sessions being held in the chapel. THE CHAPEL! We walked in, and at the base of the stage was a fountain that a clergy member had made; it had the Methodist cross and flame on it, and water ran down the wall. The theme was "rivers" and it carried throughout the entire conference. Bishop Weaver is very pastoral- he preaches and prays in a gentle manner, and presided over the conference fairly and judiciously. The worship was all great (although the music wasn't as good as Mark Miller's), and it involved youth, children, retirees, and district superintendents (at one service, they came into worship dressed up with different flotation devices and running under bead curtains- it was so much fun!). They used water, beads, strips of fabric, and blocks of ice to enhance the worship and voting sessions. Oh, AND they have "prayer-liamentary" motions; at any point in the debates over legislation someone can make a prayer-liamentary request and the bishop will stop the conversation to offer up a prayer. I can't describe how this helped ease the tension during debates. It was so different from BW; it was more like church, more like community. Oh, oh! did I mention that there were mission opportunities right there during conference? Mission as in, not only giving money, but a station where ramps were being built to be distributed throughout Northern Maine to people in need of them.

The first night we were there Evan's DS Pat MacHugh had dinner with us. I was amazed a DS would take the time, especially during conference!- to have dinner with one of her candidates and his partner. She was so nice and pastoral, wanting to know about how we liked school, how we met each other, what my call to ministry was...and thanking US for eating with her! She prayed for our continuing discernment as we go through the candidacy process and decide where we will serve. She also told us about the new opportunities that are opening up in the Northern Maine District; from a new cluster, to a church plant within the next few years, to looking to find new ways of doing parish and extension ministry. It was all very exciting to listen to, and is something that I need to continue to pray about as Evan and I begin planning our future together.

We made it back to Jersey Saturday night, just in time for me to finish prepping for the service on Sunday that I led and preached at. This past week has been the first in weeks that I haven't had to travel anywhere farther than the Target on Route 10, and for that I am extremely grateful!

So, that's what I've been up to lately! Hope you've enjoyed -and thanks for- reading! Peace.


Friday, June 11, 2010

Ch. 1

I was talking to Evan earlier today, and we both mentioned that I had written anything for a while. "What should I write about?" I asked him. "Write about...write about us!" he said. "I like to hear your version of it." So here we go. I'm going to write it in several installments, so that those who want to read don't have to tackle a huge narrative in one sitting. (It will also give me a longer project to keep my occupied- teehee). Hope you enjoy!

It was the fourth day of orientation, and my brain was pretty fried. Perhaps it was from all the information it was trying to retain about this place called Drew, or maybe it was just because it was late August and as a result quite hot and humid outside. I had dressed comfortably for the long day, pulled my unruly bangs back, and had put on some make-up, still trying to create a good first impression to the people I would spend the next three years of my life with. For the first time that week dinner was not provided, and our orientation leaders thought it would be fun to introduce us to some of the restaurants in town. The group was larger than they had planned, so half went to a typical bar and grill along the main road, while the rest of us went to the adventurous sounding David’s Rumba CafĂ©. Tables had been squeezed together in this small, quaint family-run restaurant, and the owner and waitstaff were ready for us with smiles and pads of paper for drink requests. I sat between one of the orientation leaders (DBY) and a new friend. Leena was a classical violinist, so we would have plenty to talk about if conversation lulled. Across from me sat Shannon and a young man who did not return after the first semester. Conversations abounded, new people were introduced to us as they joined our ranks at the tables, and suggestions and decisions were made in regards to food. “This is my room-mate,” DBY said, and I glanced to see a cheerful enough man on his other side. His hair was wild and shaggy, beard unkempt, and he sported an old tie-died T-shirt. I couldn’t figure out how old he was, and it was too hard to hear, so I turned my attention back to the conversation at hand: Shannon was debating marriage with the young man in front of me.

The food was delicious, and I ate a ton of it! Chips and home-made salsa, maduros and some other form of fried plantain, black bean soup, and the most amazing burrito I have ever had in my life. The Cadillac. All too soon, but still hours later, we were dividing up the tab, figuring out who owed what, how much should we leave for tip…it was suggested that some of us go back to DBY’s apartment for drinks, and I accepted the invitation. I went up to Shannon’s room and together the three of us (her roommate Lauren joined us) went down to the boy’s room. Let me start by saying I have never been much of a party-er, that I have an insanely low alcohol-tolerance, and that new people (especially men) make me nervous. So I was very proud of myself for attending this last minute gathering, and for slowly sipping the glass of Argentinian wine Lauren gave me, listening to my new school mates talk. On the couch, reclined against a pillow, was DBY’s roommate. He seemed like a combination of a hippie, and a serene buddha; he immedietely struck me as the type of person people wanted to be around. He was like honey that bees flocked to, honey that is sometimes benevolent, but sometimes dangerous. I really wasn’t sure that I wanted to get close enough to figure out what kind of honey he was. I didn’t stay long, just long enough to have my glass of wine, before asking to be escorted home. DBY led me through the woods and showed me my house from the parking lot. I walked the rest of the way by myself, thinking about the new people I had met, and wondering what types of friendships would develop –or not –between us.